This is a new year, and I suppose we’re all making resolutions. Or the smart ones of us aren’t wasting any time making them, which means that in one month there will be no guilt about not sticking to the excel spreadsheet that lays out the year’s budget. I actually signed up for a program called Builders of the New World, which mentors homeless children, sometime ago. It just so happens it gets kicked off in the New Year, which makes it seem as if I’ve resolved to do more charity work. But it’s not a resolution, it’s a conscious act, and it’s one I’m actually committed to.

I had my first training session on Weds. night, and I had a great time. It seems as if it’s a really great program. We had to go around the room and tell why we were involved. I had to write something similar on my application and I found myself then saying trite things like “I can learn so much more than I can teach” blah blah blah. But when my time came to speak it out loud, I found my reasoning much different. I had always worked with children and when I was sick, I wasn’t allowed to be around the disease-spreaders (I love them, but kids are gross and pass germs around like cookies) and it really sucked. I find kids to be very refreshing. For instance on Christmas my aunt had come to the house but didn’t want to hug me because she had a cold. I said, “Well, I’ve already had bronchitis this year, so don’t worry about it,” and my neighbors 7 year old daughter turns and says, “And cancer.” The whole room fell silent and I burst out laughing. I said, “Yes, and cancer but I don’t have that anymore.” And she said, “And bronchitis you don’t have anymore either.” It was such a random exchange but it really stuck with me. Anyway, back to the training session, I’m up and I said, “Well, last year I was diagnosed with cancer and when I was going through treatment, I wasn’t allowed to be around children. Now, I feel ready to connect to them again and I think this program will really be helpful. Plus it’s a creative outlet, so I’m not just raising money and removed from the situation.” And I found myself being much more honest. It’s probably really selfish that I want to do this program. I want to get back to doing things, and not feel so disconnected from people, from life. And also to get myself out of my own problems. It’s easy when we have something happen to us to get dredged up into it. I find that a lot of my recent charity work has to do with cancer. But I don’t want to neglect the fact that there are a lot of varying degrees of terrible situations and that I can’t just be like, “wow, this happened to me, so poor me” because that’s not really how I feel about it. And it’s not bad to be reminded now and again that I am pretty lucky all things considered.